Picture this: You’re scrolling through Instagram at 2 AM (we’ve all been there, right?), and you see that girl from high school living her absolute dream life. 😯
Ya know, perfect job, gorgeous apartment, confidence that seems totally effortless, and a relationship straight out of a rom-com. (Again 😯!)
Meanwhile, you’re lying there wondering…
Why do some people just seem to have all the luck?
Here’s the plot twist that might blow your mind: It’s not luck at all.
Okay, real talk…
Those women who always get exactly what they want?
They’re not magical unicorns.
They’re not luckier, smarter, or more deserving than you.
They just operate differently!
So, wanna dive deep into how they do it – the tiny things that make all the difference?
Then, grab your favorite beverage (coffee, tea, or that fancy kombucha you’ve been saving), get comfy,…
And let's talk about the 10 tiny micro self improvement tips that can completely transform how you do life.
Before we jump into these game-changing self improvement tips,
Let's Address The Elephant In The Room.
You know those women I’m talking about – the ones who seem to attract love, opportunities, and success like they’re walking magnets.
Everything just flows for them.
But here’s what I’ve learned after years of studying human behavior and personal development:
The difference isn't in their circumstances,
It’s in how they value themselves and show up in the world!
Think about it like this: if you were a casting director looking for someone to play the role of “successful, confident woman,”
Would you cast someone who apologizes for taking up space,
Or someone who walks into a room like they belong there?
The answer is obvious, right?
And life is basically doing the same thing, it’s casting people for roles based on how they show up!
So, here's how to ALWAYS get what you want with these 10 tiny micro habits. 👇
1️⃣ Girl, Stop Saying Yes to Everything! (The Scarcity Trap)
Do you find yourself agreeing to things you don’t actually want to do just because saying “no” feels uncomfortable?
Wanna know what I realized?
Saying yes to everything is actually a sign that you’re living in scarcity mode. 🥲
Let me paint you a picture.
It’s like having a limited budget.
Every dollar you spend on something you don’t really want is a dollar you can’t spend on something you do.
Ugh, I learned this the hard way when I was in my early twenties.
I said yes to:
Every social event,
Every work project,
Every favor people asked of me.
Oh my gawd, I thought I was being helpful and social and stuff.
But really I was just exhausted and resentful. 😫
Like, my calendar was full, but my life felt empty!
But then, this tiny habit that changes everything:
Before you automatically agree to something, take literally 2 seconds (seriously, just 2 seconds!) and ask yourself:
Do I actually want to do this?
Does this align with the life I want?
Am I saying yes because I want to, or because I feel like I should?
When you start protecting your time and energy like the precious resources they are, everything shifts.
You stop settling and start seeing yourself as someone who deserves more. 🙌
2️⃣ Adopt the "Why Not Me?" Mindset
Honestly? That massive cloud of self-doubt?
You can shrink it just by flipping this one thought pattern.
Most of us are kinda programmed like this:
We see success, love, or an awesome opportunity, and our brain instantly goes:
We spot someone with our dream job and think:
We see a couple looking crazy in love and assume:
Okay, let's freaking stop doing that for good!
Because the ONLY difference between you and them is:
Instead of:
- ❌ “That’s not for me.”
They asked:
- ✅ “Why not me?”
Seriously, watch how this shift works like magic:
Instead of:
- ❌ “I could never start my own business”
Ask yourself:
- ✅ “Why not me? What’s the very first step I could take?”
Instead of:
- ❌ “I’ll never meet the right partner”
Ask yourself:
- ✅ “Why not me? What energy am I putting out there? Am I even open to love?”
Instead of:
- ❌ “I’m not naturally confident”
Ask yourself:
- ✅ “Why not me? Confidence is built – what tiny thing could I do today to feel a bit stronger?”
The second you switch:
From doubt to curiosity
From "impossible" to "maybe this could be mine"
Trust me, you start opening doors you didn’t even know were there!
3️⃣ Never Stop at "I Don't Know"
You know that moment when you truly have no idea what to do next?
Or that sudden feeling of being completely stuck?
Lemme tell you this, hitting a genuine dead end isn’t rare; it’s human!
But most people just stop right there, like they’ve reached the end of the road.
But the baddies who CONSISTENTLY get their way?
They see “I don’t know” as the start of the conversation, NOT the end!
Seriously though, picture this:
You’re driving somewhere and you hit a roadblock.
Do you stop the car, get out, and just give up?
Hell no!
You find a detour and keep moving. 👏
So what do you do instead?
Flip it!
Instead of freezing at:
- ❌ “I don’t know. 🤷♀️”
Tell yourself:
- ✅ “Okay, there has to be a way. 🔥”
Then ask yourself stuff like:
What's the very next step I can take?
Who might actually be able to help me figure this out?
Where could I dig up the info I need?
Look, it’s not about magically knowing the answer right now.
It’s about believing a solution exists and then actually going out and finding it. PERIOD. 🙌
4️⃣ Ask for What You Want (WITHOUT Apologizing)
Ok, hear me out.
If you never ask, you’ll never get it!
Here’s a truth bomb:
But here's where so many of us go wrong (especially women!)
Then we do ask, we try to:
Soften our words,
Over-explain
Or sound as non-demanding as possible.
We say things like:
❌ “Hey, I know you’re super busy, but do you think you could maybe help me with this thing? If not, it’s totally okay, no worries!”
❌ “I hate to ask, but could I possibly get an extension? I’ve just had a lot on my plate lately…”
Let's flip the script. Try asking like this:
✅ “Hey, I’d love your insight on this when you’re available. Can you take a quick look?”
✅ “Would it be possible to get a table by the window? We’d love one if it’s available.”
The difference?
You’re still polite, but you’re not apologizing for having needs or wants.
You’re asking with the energy of someone who believes the answer could be yes. 🙂↕️
5️⃣ Speak Like Money Loves You
Let’s talk about money for a hot minute, because I know a lot of you want more of it (and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that! ✨).
But here's the thing:
Most people have a seriously complicated relationship with money.
They talk about it like it’s that unreliable, flaky ex who disappears when you need them most. 🥹
Money has feelings (metaphorically, but powerfully)
If you constantly say:
- 😫 Money’s so hard to keep,”
- 😫 “I’m always broke,”
- 😫 Or “Rich people are greedy.”
It’s like telling your partner:
- 😫 “You exhaust me.
- 😫 You never stay.
- 😫 I don’t like people who have you.”
Result?
Money feels unwanted.
And like any sensible being, it avoids hostile places.
It’d be like “BYEEEE girl 🫷💅”.
And you’d be like “OH HELL NAH!”
So this is what to say instead (flirty edition):
“Money flows to me easily.”
“I’m so grateful you always find me.”
“Let’s do amazing things together. ✨”
Result?
Babe, you’re the fun, welcoming partner money WANTS to surprise!
Try this today:
Next time money shows up (even $5), whisper:
“Hey, gorgeous. Thanks for showing up for me. Let’s go multiply. 😘💵🏃♀️💰🥰”
Watch how it responds.
The real magic:
So, stop complaining about money like it’s a flaky ex.
Start flirting with it like it’s obsessed with you. 💕
This is reprogramming your financial DNA. Trust.
6️⃣ The Invisible Crown Technique
I know this sounds silly, 👀 but trust me on this one…
Let’s imagine wearing a crown on top of your head.
Like, LITERALLY picture a beautiful, sparkly crown sitting on your head right now, girl! 👑🫵👩
Kay, slay queen! 👸✨
Now, notice what happens?
Your posture shifts,
Your head lifts slightly,
Your shoulders relax,
And your energy expands.
Girl, see how you just NATURALLY start carrying yourself with more confidence and grace?
This isn’t just some cheesy metaphor.
Your posture literally changes when you imagine something on top of your head, and your energy shifts accordingly.
The women who always get what they want move through life like they belong.
They don’t second-guess themselves or apologize for taking up space.
I know, I know, if I just told you to “start moving through life like you belong,” you’d probably be like, “Okay, but HOW?”
Babe, here's how:
Next time you walk into a coffee shop, go to the grocery store, or sit down at work, imagine that invisible crown on your head.
Then, notice how:
Your posture changes,
How your energy shifts,
How you feel,
And how people respond to you.
It’s tiny, it’s cheesy, but it’s also one of the simplest ways to embody that “I belong here” energy.
7️⃣ Put Yourself IN the Energy of What You Want
The outcome you want isn’t very far away. You just need to stop distancing yourself from it!
Most people keep their desires at arm’s length without even realizing it.
––If wealth makes you uncomfortable, you avoid fancy hotels.
––If success intimidates you, you stay away from successful people.
––If confidence feels out of reach, you shy away from situations needing confidence.
But here’s the thing:
Whatever you distance yourself from, you push further away.
The solution:
Whatever you want, be in it.
Observe it.
Immerse yourself in it as much as possible, even before you technically have it yet.
Let me share a personal story about my friend Reese that perfectly illustrates this.
When she was living in an apartment in LA that she didn’t love (it wasn’t in the safest neighborhood, and she got yelled at a lot), she did something that might sound crazy.
Almost every weekend, she took her dog (Coco 🐕🦺🥰), got in the car, drove 30 minutes to a beautiful, affluent neighborhood with gorgeous houses, and that’s where they went for their walks.
You see this?
Yes, she let herself BE in the reality she wanted to experience.
She of course weren’t there yet, but she put herself in it.
Eight months later, she moved into that exact neighborhood. 💅
Girl, that is SO powerful!
She literally walked her dog (and herself!) right into that dream neighborhood.
Talk about manifestation! 🙌
So, how do you actually do this? Easy:
Want to move to New York?
- ✅ Follow NYC content creators,
- ✅ Look at West Village apartments online,
- ✅ Watch Gossip Girl, surround yourself with it.
Want luxury in your life?
- ✅ Go walk through a high-end store,
- ✅ Try on a beautiful bag,
- ✅ Admire pretty things.
Want more confidence?
- ✅ Follow women who embody it.
(Not to compare, but to learn from their energy)
When something feels normal instead of far away, you stop pushing it away and start aligning with it naturally.
8️⃣ Don't Speak What You Don't Want to Multiply
Alright, think about this:
What you say over and over? 👉 It literally becomes your reality.
Wild, right?
Most people totally miss this.
They say stuff like “men are the worst” and then wonder why they keep attracting the same wrong type of guy. 🫢
Or they go “I’m always broke” and somehow stay stuck in tight money situations.
Seriously, the women who are really getting what they want?
They’re CRAZY intentional about how they talk about money, love, success, just everything.
Here's the powerful shift:
Instead of:
- ❌ “I can never afford that”
Say:
- ✅ “That’s not a priority for me right now”
Instead of:
- ❌ “I’m stuck in this job”
Say:
- ✅ “I’m figuring out my next step”
Instead of:
- ❌ “All the good guys are taken”
Say:
- ✅ “There are great guys out there, I just haven’t met the right one yet”
Let's try this tiny habit:
Catch yourself before you say something negative about any part of your life.
Just ask: “Is this something I actually want more of?”
If not? Flip it.
Find a different way to say it.
Look, this isn't about toxic positivity or pretending everything's perfect.
It’s about being super intentional with your words
Because, honestly?
They shape your world way more than you might realize!
9️⃣ See Rejection as Redirection (The Burnt Toast Theory)
We’ve all been there, right?
That crappy feeling after a disappointment.
How do you bounce back and trust things will work out?
Let’s be real:
Nobody likes getting rejected.
Nobody wakes up thinking, "I really hope I get rejected today!"
But here's something that might totally change how you see things:
Think about women who consistently get what they want.
❌ They don't take rejection personally.
✅ They see it as redirection.
Ever heard of the Burnt Toast Theory?
It’s this idea: your toast burns, making you 5 minutes late?
Maybe that delay SAVED you! Like:
Missing a car accident by seconds,
Dodging your toxic ex at the coffee shop,
Or even being late enough to bump into the love of your life.
Anything can happen, girl.
Rejection works the same way.
Ever looked back at something you desperately wanted – a job, a relationship, an opportunity – and thought,
“Wow, I totally dodged a bullet there!”?
THAT’s redirection in action.
Here's the mindset flip:
When something doesn’t work out,
Switch from:
- 😫 “Why is this happening to me?”
To
- 💅 “Okay, burnt toast. That one wasn’t for me. Something better’s gotta be coming.”
So, just remember this from now on:
🔟 Set Yourself Up to Win the Night Before
Last tip!
And honestly, it’s all about prep.
Seriously, anyone who’s got their stuff together knows that if you wanna achieve your dreams, you gotta set yourself up for success.
Chaos is sneaky.
You think, “It’s fine, I’ll clean up these dirty dishes ✨ tomorrow ✨”.
Then BAM, you wake up to a messy kitchen and you’re already overstimulated by 9 AM.
Ugh. 😒
So here's the tiny habit:
Before bed, do ONE thing your future self will thank you for.
Just one!
Maybe it’s:
Lay out
your outfit so you’re not scrambling in the morning.
Tidy up
your space so you don’t wake up to chaos.
Write down
- your one top priority so you start the day focused instead of scattered.
These tiny actions tell your brain, “Hey, this is the direction we’re going in.”
They create momentum and totally set the tone for a better tomorrow. 🔥
Consistency Is Key
Seriously, don’t worry.
In the beginning, I couldn’t do all of these either. 😅
Here's the beautiful thing about these self-improvement tips:
You don’t need to implement all 10 habits tomorrow (that would be overwhelming and totally unsustainable).
Pick ONE that resonates with you most.
Maybe it’s:
The "Why not me?" mindset,
Or the invisible crown technique,
Or simply asking for what you want without over-explaining.
Start there.
The women who always seem to get what they wanna get aren’t doing anything impossible!
They’re just consistently doing small things that add up to big changes over time. ✔️
Your Turn to Step Into Your Power
Save this post as a reminder whenever you feel like some people just have all the luck and not you.
Because now you know the truth:
It’s not luck, it’s strategy!
BTW, I'd love to hear from you.
Which of these 10 self improvement tips resonated with you most?
Which habit you’re going to try first?
Drop your answers in the comments! 👇
And hey, if you found this helpful, share it with a friend who needs to hear this message too.
Remember,
You're not asking for too much.
You're not being unrealistic.
You're not meant to settle for less than what you want.
These habits?
They’re your roadmap to becoming the woman who always gets what she wants. 💅
The only question left is:
Why not you? 🔥
Let’s tap into your divine feminine energy and becoming your best self.
Your dream life is waiting!
Let’s make it happen together. ✨
